Must-have lists are formulated from a head space, but the head isn’t what falls in love or has compassion during inevitable tough times.Often, the qualities you will most appreciate and honor in your partner are the ones you didn’t even know you needed. Are you interpreting every ever-so-slightly confusing signal you get from a potential mate as an offense to you and a red flag or a sign that they aren't trustworthy after all?You might be surprised to learn that most of the work of creating true love in your life is actually done before you ever meet “the one.”I have watched my clients and friends (and, not to mention, myself) find true love, and there are a few common themes in what comes beforehand. Your thoughts create your reality, so by thinking negatively you're essentially manifesting what you don’t want.Here are eight things you must master before you can invite real love into your life:1. Focus on building a great relationship with yourself. Train yourself to think positively, expecting the good.3.I decided to turn my attention inward—to get to know and accept myself, to heal past wounds, and to explore and develop new parts of myself.Previously, I needed to be with someone in order to feel content, to have someone love me in order to feel loved.So you will have a much better chance of meeting your soul mate, because your soul mate will also be connected to your life path.A side effect of leading the life you choose is that you automatically become more attractive.
I stopped looking for “the one” after a two-year relationship ended, which I had believed was the one.
Don’t let past experiences determine your future.7. You cannot selectively be a good communicator with some people and a terrible communicator with others.
You are either someone who has the integrity and the courage to be heard and speak their mind honestly, or you are hanging on to a tendency to suppress, avoid, or silence communication.
The question is: can you show gratitude and pleasure to other people openly and without feeling ashamed or guilty? Let go of your checklist of must-haves for your ideal partner.
While it’s good to know what you like and don’t like, you also don’t want to narrow your worldview and create stubborn tunnel vision.