Dating someone after a break up
The utter sadness and despair you feel post-breakup is exacerbated by the fears of fix ups, loneliness, considering or Tinder, and of course, rejection.
When we are faced with the “single again” situation, there are common things we all WANT to do, but in reality, these things are not what we SHOULD be doing.
Past emotions, attachments and experiences cannot compete with someone you have known for five minutes. Understand and accept that it will probably take some time for you to develop feelings for a new guy, but that doesn't mean you won't find better or you won't like someone else. Schedule some more time with your friends, spend some time alone and get yourself back to a place where you’re okay with being single.
You feel like the best way to get you over this breakup is to fall head over heels all over again. Go into each date with the mindset of just having fun, getting your mind off your ex and moving on for the evening, no other expectations.
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All of a sudden you think he has to be a secret porn addict who lives in his parents' basement. When you’re not 100 percent sold on dating being “fun,” you can easily create excuses to write people off and say no to dates.
This scenario is both highly unlikely and completely constructed in your emotional mindset. You will never love absolutely everything about another person, so try not to be too harsh.