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If yes, it might serve you to really spend some time thinking about what the relationship looks like and if you are creating expectations that your dates aren’t able to live up to.Having expectations can be useful for having a framework for what you want, however they can also be stifling.

It’s a top complaint I hear, “Where are all the good butches?

A couple of femme acquaintances have asked me how do I find butches and where can they go meet quality butches other than LGBT bars.

First and foremost, I think that when you are looking you tend to attract the crazies, the psychos, the ones you shouldn’t touch even with a 30 foot pole… Second, I think that, as a femme, one needs to work on herself and the rest of the pieces will fall into place on their own.

Believe me, I have been there: I know how hard femme invisibility is.

But, like I wrote last year, once you switch your energy from meeting butches to doing you (taking up a new hobby, going to the gym, volunteering, doing what makes you happy), they start popping out of nowhere and on your direction like crazy.